Last Updated on June 17, 2023
Everyone both wants and needs to be loved. It’s critical to understand not just how you appreciate being loved but also how to love others appropriately.
The five love languages became well known after Gary Chapman, Ph.D., published a best-selling book about the topic. In his book “The Five Love Languages” he describes the love language types to help partners express and experience love; based on his own experience as a marriage counselor.
In today’s post, you’ll learn about each of the five love language types, so you can use this knowledge to build a deep love connection in your relationship.
The Five Love Languages Explained
The five love languages will help guide you on how you prefer to receive love and how you should express love. You’ll be able to show your loved one how you feel in a way that is fulfilling to them once you’ve worked out what their love language is. Along with your own love language so you can feel fulfilled too.
Let’s say your partner enjoys hearing the words “I love you” frequently. Even if they already know you love them, just hearing the words can make their day. However, you may always have thought that buying small gifts would be a great way to communicate your love. Your loved one is likely to enjoy the gesture whenever you show affection, but it is not their preferred method of receiving love.
What Are the Five Love Languages?
The five love languages are words of affirmations, quality time, receiving gifts, acts of service, and physical touch. Below you’ll find an explanation of each and what you can do to express your love that way.
1. Words of Affirmations
Some people, like the example mentioned earlier, enjoy receiving love through phrases like “I love you” and “I appreciate all you do.” For the people who belong to this love language, you’ll want to offer constant support and never leave anything unsaid. Ideas to express your love through words of affirmations can be:
Every day, try to express your gratitude for your partner in some way, either spoken or through text messages. Don’t assume your partner is aware of your thoughts and feelings; express yourself!
2. Quality Time
One of the love languages is all about spending time with a partner. That doesn’t mean just casual chat; it’s a time when your partner is your main focus. If your partner’s love language is quality time, consider the following:
Choose a specific time every day or week to focus your full attention on your partner. That means turning off the TV and putting down your phone, so you two can have some alone time together with all focus necessary.
Think about activities you can do together to really connect. However, always make sure your relationship with yourself is good first; that’s how you can truly connect with your partner.
See also: How to love yourself more
3. Receiving Gifts
Another love language is one in which your partner loves giving and receiving gifts. Not because they are greedy, but because they are visual people who like to see proof of the deepening relationship. If you’re together with this type of partner, here is something to keep in mind:
If you’re not a big spender, try to make an effort to spend at least a little money on your partner or make some homemade or handcrafted gifts. You can also leave love cards and notes. However, you don’t need to give gifts every day. Instead, give thoughtful and meaningful gifts once in a while.
4. Acts of Service
When it comes to the love languages between partners, we cannot forget about acts of service. With a busy life and many chores to get done, there are many things you can do to make your partner’s life easier. Consider the following tips:
Everyone has different tasks that they consider important in their everyday life. Find out what your partner doesn’t like and do it, such as taking out the trash, cooking dinner, or running some errands. Doing chores requires thinking ahead, and your partner will definitely appreciate that.
5. Physical Touch
The love language of physical touch is about expressing your love by physically being close to your partner. It can include cuddling, holding hands, or even a simple touch. Each partner usually has their own opinion on how to show love through this language. Something to consider can be:
Find out what type of touch your partner likes, whether it’s a shoulder massage or cuddling while watching TV.
Likewise, it’s also necessary to find out which touches irritate your partner. Learn to know your partner’s emotions and moods so you know when you should express physical affection.
Combination of Love Languages
Like most people, your partner will probably speak a specific combination of these love languages. As your relationship deepens, you will get to know your partner better and better. It can even help to talk about the love languages with your partner to understand better what each person needs in the relationship to feel loved and appreciated.
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Hello, my name is Sara and I am the founder of Spiritvibez, I’m here to guide you on your spiritual journey toward healing, growth, and self-discovery. I believe that true transformation occurs when the mind, body, and spirit are aligned and working in harmony. Through Spiritvibez, I hope to inspire and empower you to deepen your spiritual practice, embrace your authentic self, and begin living your best life.